Wednesday, November 25, 2020

Barry D. MacIntosh 1938-2020








 My dear friends:

Tonight I lost my wonderful husband of 46 years (since we married November 23, 1974).  His sudden death has taken me by shock and surprise.  He had four radiation treatments and was scheduled for his last tomorrow and then was to be sent home by ambulance.  A hospital bed was installed at our house today.  Yesterday, despite the Covid-19 lockdown, I was granted a pass to come to the hospital for training on equipment to aid his planned home care.  We had a beautiful day together yesterday at the hospital full of love and good memories.  He was looking forward to coming home.  At 5:27 Eastern time today, the hospital rang my phone.  It was an unusual number for the hospital and I thought perhaps it was more from discharge planning.  I decided to call my husband's room first.  His room phone was answered by his nurse who told me his vital signs were going down and he wasn't doing too well.  They asked if somebody could drive me to the hospital immediately and I would be given a pass to come in despite the no-visitors policy.  My son drove me immediately. We arrived at the hospital at 10 of six.  As I walked in his room, a doctor was standing behind one of the curtains and the nurse who called me came out and said, "we are so sorry.  He passed five minutes ago."  I am devastated, but they told me he had a last peaceful day and did not appear to be in pain.   I am devastated and covet your support and prayers.

I am trusting that Barry is now resting in God's love and care. What his medical care team thought of him was posted on his room board and I took a picture to preserve and share it.

May the Lord help us all!

Constance


38 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am so very sorry. May your family and almighty God console you.

Physicist

Constance Cumbey said...

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear your news, Constance.
What a truly remarkable bond the two of you have had.
To God be the Glory.
The God of all comfort be with you and the family.

Hutch said...

So sorry for your loss. God is good all the time. I trust him to make his goodness known to you and your family during this sad time.

Craig said...

I can only imagine what you are going through. The date of your anniversary did not escape my notice. May God's Word, family, and friends provide you comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:

2 Grace be to you and peace from God our Father, and from the Lord Jesus Christ.

3 Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort;

4 Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.



Psalm 30:5 ...weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

RayB said...

Dear Constance,

Please accept my heart felt sympathy. Obviously, I didn't know Barry, but in a way, I felt I did through your accounts regarding his life. He was, no doubt, a very remarkable man that must have had a huge impact on those that he came in contact with.

I read this line long ago and for some reason, I never forgot it: "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."

May God give you comfort and strength in this trying time.

Anonymous said...

I think this blog is a large part Barry, too.
His unwavering support of Constance, to be able to keep at it as a lawyer and blog owner where incredible information has come to us all, as husband and wife, with a family to care for, speaks very highly of him, as it does of Constance.
What they have weathered and endured together, while keeping the finger on the pulse of what we are watching unfold, tells me that they were a genuine powerhouse unit.
Constance, your partner and fellow warrior may be departed from this life, but his mark is here to stay.
And I am thankful...to you both.

Anonymous said...

Dear Constance,

I tend not to post anymore though I do still follow you here. I am truly sorry for your loss and great sadness.

You are in my thoughts amd prayers,
R.

Anonymous said...

Dear Constance:

May your dear loyal supportive husband, Barry rest in peace for all eternity in the arms of Jesus and all of His angels... and may God bring you comfort and give you the necessary spiritual and physical strength during these coming days, weeks and months.

Four years ago, I lost my husband (after having been his caretaker for the last 2 1/2 years of his life. He had been in my life for 57 years (as we met as teenagers, when I was 17 and he was 19).

No one can prepare you for this tremendous LOSS. (You feel like half a pair of scissors.) Only TIME can soften and eventually heal your pain... but, I can assure you that the day will come when your tears will be replaced by smiles at all of the happy memories that you both shared.

Meanwhile, I will be keeping you in my prayers, Constance.


~ Rita

Anonymous said...

Barry is now in the Kingdom of Heaven after meeting the Son of Man and being told 'Welcome, my son'.

The hell on earth that we are about to experience down here should make us envious of the ones who passed this year. You gonna see him again Constance. Don't you worry about a thing.


Susanna said...

Dear Constance,

I am so very sorry to hear about your sad loss. I have been praying for you and your husband, Barry every day.

Eternal rest grant unto his soul O Lord and let perpetual light shine upon him. May his soul and the souls of all the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace, Amen.

Rest assured I will continue to pray for you, Constance.

Much love,

Susanna

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry to hear of your husband's passing Constance! Right now Barry must be experiencing joy that is beyond what he could even imagine when he was in his body.
You will see him again after a while, and experience paradise with him!

God Bless you and comfort you.

Anonymous said...

Dear Constance ~

Back in 1978, my mom died after 36 days in intensive care.

One of the most beautiful sympathy cards that my sisters and I received described Heaven this way...

"No eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man conceived what God has prepared for those who love Him."

Those words gave my sisters and me tremendous comfort in our grief.

After all, we are grieving for ourselves... over our own LOSS and earthly separation from that loved one. We KNOW that we will see him or her again one day... when we 'cross over'.

However, we often need to be reminded that it is a JOYFUL time for the deceased person who has lived a good Christian life and obeyed God's Ten Commandments... and if that person has suffered a great deal of pain toward the end of his or her life... he or she is now pain free... and no longer suffering.

Anonymous said...

Mrs. Cumbey,

So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

x

Terri Mulberry said...

My heart grieves your loss. So thankful that you and he know the joy of salvation in Jesus Christ. May the Great Shepherd bring you comfort and strength as you rest in Him in the days and months ahead.

Pam L. said...

Heartbreaking.... I’m so sorry .. to you and your family. Thank you for sharing Barry with us. He was a very good soul. I admired him.
God love you and your family and comfort you.
You are never alone. Jesus is with you ...and so are we.
When I lost my daughter ( she was just turning 6- she had a brain tumor)..I found comfort in the Bible and in prayer in the quiet chapel at church. She was with God so He was the only comfort. Her friends were telling me that she claimed Jesus visited her and said she gets to play on his playground soon. She loved Jesus and her faith was a testimony to them. I am still grateful to God for that.
With tears, big hug to you ...
Love
Pam

paul said...

Dear Constance
So sorry to hear of Barry's passing.
I hope you can find solace and comfort in the only true God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints. (Psalms 116:15)

_Thinking of you.

infocyde said...

Extremely sorry for your loss. I pray Jesus will comfort you and draw you close, and that many people will come to your aid for support and love through this time.

Reuben G. said...

I’m praying for you all! God bless you...blessed are those who mourn...

Anonymous said...

Prayers to you Constance. You have been an influence in many ways. Some I am still making sense of in light of what you have discovered in your past research. It is all too relative for what is happening today!

Shalom!

J said...

May God comfort you, Constance, and may He surround you with support from friends and family. "And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose."

GrantNZ said...

Hi Constance,

I am really at a loss for what to say other than our love and prayers goes out to you.

God bless you,
Grant and Lorraine Sutton

Anonymous said...

Rise like lions after slumber
In unvanquishable number!
Shake your chains to earth like dew
Which in sleep had fallen on you:
Ye are many — they are few!

— Percy Bysshe Shelley, The Masque of Anarchy (1819)

Anonymous said...

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Unknown said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Constance. May the Holy Spirit comfort you and your family.
Janice

Christine Erikson (aka Justina) said...

I am very sorry for your loss, and feel sad for you. This must be very hard on you. At least he didn't suffer much.

Savvy said...

Dear Constance,

Please accept my heartfelt condolences on the passing of your husband. May he rest in peace.

Anonymous said...

Constance, although I am very sorry to hear about Barry's passing... I am just thankful that Barry did not have to go through the horrific Hospice experience that my late husband went though 4 years ago. (If you recall, I shared that story with you on a previous thread.)

Anonymous said...

A poet wrote this. It always touches my heart.
Un être cher
Vient de s'en aller.
Comment exprimer
Par de simples mots
La grande émotion
Et l'infinie tristesse
Qu'au fond du coeur
Nous ressentons.
It says that someone we love is gone. How can we tell using simple words the great emotion and the sadness so great that we feel in the bottom of our heart.

Psalms 46.1 God is our retrait, our strength and our help in distresses, and very easy to find. Martin translation in french.

Yes He is with you. He has been with us when our 2nd son passed away 7 years ago.

Anonymous said...

Dearest Constance,

May the peace of the Lord be with You.

~ K ~

Anonymous said...

I am sorry for your loss. God bless you.

ozark said...

Constance, i don't quite know what to say, so i guess that says it all. Please know how sincerely sad i feel and why i say Shalom here n now,
trusting our heavenly Father in the spirit of truth as we place all things in His loving hands. This is Tony in VT./ Love in Christ

Constance Cumbey said...

to "ozark" 1:20 pm Thank you Tony! My husband remembered talking to you in past when he answered phone.

Constance

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Unknown said...

Constance,
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I too lost my spouse of 50 years last June and still find his death hard to comprehend as it was totally unexpected. I certainly know what you are going through after losing the love of your life, the pain in your heart is unbearable at times. Be assured I will pray for you as you learn to live without your beloved as I am still trying to do. May you feel the Lords presence as you walk through the pain of loss. In loving prayer, Rebecca Brown

BR said...

I am so sorry for Your loss Mrs. Cumby but I am glad your husband is with the Lord. I hope you are doing okay. I wish I could speak with you to check on you.
I was just reading your past few blogs and am so proud of how aware you are of all that is happening. Especially in the medical industry. They 'ended' my grandfather's life just as you described. They withheld IV fluids, all other fluids and food of any kind. He was perfectly aware. Talking, sitting up ect.. This went of for 5 days before they told us he was about to die. I kept telling my mom he was not and we needed to get him out of there. Right when she was starting the process to remove him and take him home, they came and began to give him pain medicine. Although he wasn't in any actual pain, except hungry. Long story short, they gave him Morphine every hour on the hour until they OD'd him. It took us a minute to catch on and by then it was too late. They were very smooth on how they did this. They used so much deception on my mother to get her to go along with their plan to take out my grandpa. I have spent so much time being angry about this. But, now I am just glad he is with the Lord, and not here to see all that is happening here. My prayers go to you my sweet sister in the Lord. May He comfort and bless your heart. Brandy

The Regulator Fund said...

Dear Ms. Cumbey:
Many years ago, it was clear from your postings, that you were steadfast in your role as a caretaker for Barry. The caretaker is often overlooked even though they walk in the direction pointed out by our Savior. Thank you for the example you provide in the form of a Christian woman.

JC French, Esq.

Anonymous said...

so true ^